Two weeks ago a former co-worker tried to introduce me to a man. She said he was such a nice guy and good looking and hard working and a good father. These are all great characteristics I would like in my knight. But then she mentioned that his divorce isn't quite final. Red flag #1.
I explain to her that I'm not dating right now, but I can be a friend because I have been through divorce. I was also organizing a singles bowling night for my friends, so he could come and meet some new people, several of whom are divorced parents. It would be an hour and a half drive one way, but he would be welcome to join us.
So this potential knight calls me to talk. I am not a talk-on-the-phone person. I answer the phone at work. And as a solo mom to two kids, I don't have much time for walking around with a phone stuck to my ear. Texting is a great option since I can pick up my phone, say a little something, and then come back to it later.
After one week of texting and a few phone calls, my potential knight sent me flowers. Red flag #2. It was all happening too fast for me. All the phone calls plus flowers in one week. This was starting to resemble dating. I tried to quell my concerns and consider that he is someone who is hurting and hasn't dated in 10 years.
During our conversations, there began to be other little red flags that popped up. I tried to squash them also, marking it up to my being hurt from past relationships. Then some of his behavior the night of bowling had me viewing my potential knight as more of the court jester. My gut was saying that something wasn't right.
Then I got an unexpected punch in the gut on Monday. I received an innocent text from Mr. X's sister related to work. Seeing the name on my phone made me realize that there is still some hurt. I'm still not ready for dating. And it gave me and courage to escape from this "friendship" that was spiraling into more than I wanted or needed.
My potential knight didn't understand. After 6 months of being separated, he is ready to move on with someone new. He thought I should be closer to where he is. But I'm not.
At the end of the day, I know I need this time to heal. If this guy is supposed to be my knight in shining armor, then he will be around when my 6-month of no dating ends.
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