If you give a man enough time, he will show you who he truly is.
Some show you sooner than others. It looks like most men in my life will show me within 3 months which is good because I'd rather not waste time.
My dude turned out to be a dud. He gave me an ultimatum the week before Thanksgiving that I wasn't willing to meet. Then he completely disappeared for a week and came back with a pitiful story about accidentally erasing my contact info while talking to his mom. It was so ridiculous!
Yet, I am the giver of 1,000 chances and allowed him to darken the doorstep of my office again.
I didn't go to lunch with him again, but he did text and stop by my office to talk. He offered to take me on a romantic dinner to apologize for his stupidity and offered to fix the brakes on my car.
But the truth about who he is came roaring forward, too loud to ignore. It turns out he was telling his same stories about his girls and how he helps people and about his trailer burning down to a girlfriend of mine. That is how it started with us. Building the story about how he is a good guy before inviting me to lunch.
That was enough truth for me to cut him and all his lies from my life.
What I have learned is that my gut instincts are right if I will just listen to them. Those nagging feelings in the back of my mind were there for a good reason.
I started counting myself as single again that Monday the week before Thanksgiving, which means I've been single for a month now. I'm not putting a self-imposed, no-dating restriction this time. I will go with the flow and trust my instincts.
