"Knight in Shining Armor" suggests changing the way dating is viewed. Instead of dating to get to know someone, first we should get to know someone before dating. Yes, I realize that the point of the first few dates to get to know whether or not someone is worthy of taking things further. I'm trying to get a different result, so I'm trying to embrace the idea in the book.
A very interested man has started pursuing me. I have a list of qualities I'm looking for in my knight, so I casually and cautiously began inquiring about these things. I told him about my no-dating pledge. He said he didn't understand but that people were different, so he could respect that. I explained that I liked the idea of getting to know someone without the pressure of a goodnight kiss or holding hands. He has said repeatedly that he's fine taking things slow for now and doesn't want to pressure me.
We have text some during the day, but then he wanted to talk on the phone or get together in the evening. I put him off a couple of times, but I can tell he wants more. It has started to feel like dating of old. That is not where I want to be. I asked to take a couple of days off from contact - no texting and no phone calls. He kindly agreed.
It would be so easy to run to the arms of someone new, especially when he's showing me attention that was lacking in my last relationship. But part of the point of not dating is to learning to lean on God and not another man.
I'm meeting a friend for lunch later this week. She pointed out that if he's the right guy, he will be here in 6 months. I can see that I need to break off contact with this guy. It's hard to walk away from potential.
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